Hi GH, Its' so nice to hear from you and no you did not offend me or make light of my sitch. You are very objective and honest and that is what I like about coming here.
Quote: then the constant implied, or even overt pressure to ML is a HUGE turn-off. The advice to "just go for it" is good for maybe one or two attempts but constant bugging someone to have $ex seems to be the wrong way to go.
I tend to agree with you here, I myself feel a little desparate so I am quite sure that I am coming off as such. I don't believe there should be pressure from either of us to ML, I believe it should just come natural.
If I really dig deep it's not really even the sex that I want, it is more about connecting with my H, feeling loved and treasured by the person that I love and treasure. It is really a self-esteem thing for me. A year ago H told me he no longer loved me, wasn't attracted to me and wanted a D. It is hard to get past those words.
As far as moving, that is just not financially possibly at this point in time although H has stated several times over the past month that he is considering switching jobs. He says it is to get more hours and more money, I have a feeling it might be more than that; like a need to break free from the OW (wishfull thinking on my part).
I have encouraged him to do this because I know how scary it can be to change jobs and also because selfishly I want him to get away from her.
Thanks for encouraging me, I need that every once in a while because some days I just want to give up. Then I realize I want to give up because I am a big selfish baby who is not getting her way. That is wrong, as you said we are partners and everything is not always about me and my happiness, I have 4 other people's happiness to consider too.
