Not much has been happening around here. In fact, due to our work schedules I didn't see H at all on Wed. or Thurs. When we finally did see eachother Friday evening I thought things would be good. We hung out together; watched some TV and talked alot catching eachother up about our week. Then H goes upstairs to go to bed. I follow him up to give him a hug and kiss and he turns his face. I leave to tuck in the kids then go back in the room and lay next to him and kiss him on the lips. I said "You know, it really hurts my feelings when you go up to bed and don't even kiss me goodnight." He said, "Don't start this" (with a tone of voice that meant it) So I left the room and slept in the basement.

It is pretty clear that he is only here for the kids and because quite frankly, we are broke, so he can't afford to leave.

He has also told me in no uncertain terms that I am not to give him a Christmas gift and if I do he will not open it. Obviously he has no intention of giving me one either. Is this how you treat someone you love?

We are supposed to go Christmas shopping after I get off work tonight. Do I go? I'm tired of trying. I am spinning my wheels and getting nowhere. Do I concede that I lost, give up hope and live together as roommates?