Then the more I thought about it, it must have been the same reaction my H had when he started getting attention from OW.
I think what's more difficult is comparing how the husbands act to us and how we imagine they acted with OW. I might know logically the comparisons are unfair, and probably unrealistic, but I still can't help doing it.
In fact there's probably no way my husband could possibly give me the kind of attention I imagine he gave her. That's kind of sad because he can never meet what I'd expect him to do if he "loves me." Not as punishment, but as a way to prove it... and because I imagine him having tried to give her the world.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
