What to expect...part three

[PositivelyListening]

Hi MamaBear,

I have been keeping up with you, and I just wanted you to know I am here. I do think there is something to opening up our own sexuality and feelings of attractiveness that will help turn things around. Right after my H left, I got a male massage therapist and I also took a visit for the first time in my life to the local sex shop. I checked out the Eroscillator and boy do I think OT is on the right track too Anyway, as you know my H has not turned back around my way yet, but I have a glow now that I never had before and other people are noticing how great I look. It is my choice of course whether I decide to give my H more time to work himself out and hopefully work his way back to the M, or whether I move on. But meanwhile I want to carry that spark and I love the way I feel now and I would never go back. In fact one of the things I was concerned about in the beginning, is how I would be able to continue to do all of the things I am doing in my life that are so great, if H came back. Now there is no question. This is my life, H would have to adjust to what works for me and lights up my life.

Anyway, have you though about sharing with H that a fellow at work came on to you? And that all it made you feel is how much you wanted to come home and do it with your H? Whisper in his ear, how about right now, let's take a shower, whatever. See if you can channel all that energy into a lovely ML session. Just a thought, tell him you are hot and horny and... Come on mama, keep your confidence up! Remember before the babies? What were you doing together? Let's get back to it. Out of the doing mode, all of the responsibilities, and back to when time doesn't matter, nothing matters more than doing this together. Forget the "why doesn't my H..." Think, a little impishly, "why don't I just...."

I am rooting for you Mama. Be playful. Be bold! You can do this.