We are kinda all in the same boat on the physical R. I've been known to stomp my food and want it right now too! Sooo frustrating! I was lying in bed this morning as J was up and getting a shower wishing he'd get the urge to crawl back in bed and play a little. I was thinking.. how can he not just want it and go for it sometimes? Definately not his top priority, but it comes before sleeping and eating for me.
Good analogy. The more approachable and loving I am, the more affectionate J is likely to be, but then I mess up and get impatient and chase him away with my attitude. Uggh.