Okay, not to beat a dead horse (ha) b/c I can beat them with the best of 'em...

But (TL aside, b/c he seems to be an exception, lucky b@stard), let us remember how LONG it took GH to get where he is after the A ended...almost a year?

It's been a year today since I discovered my H's A.

Sex with my H is something I am STARVING for on a regular basis (it was last seen in my house in July), but that's not where we are. I beat him over the head about it pre- and post-A, among other things. And thought that was IT, the Dealbreaker of all, b/c by-damn, I want to HAVE it, and be desired by my H.

I completely GET where your head is Mama, I do.

BUT. When my bluff was called (okay, leave), I really LOVE my H (as craptastically as I've treated him) and that stomping-my-foot-for- attitude completely dissipated, and I realized that I want to be M to my H. Yes, I want the ML like crazy, but some of us have longer bridges to cross to get to that benefit than others. I know we do. And you do, too. Your inner pissed-off-ness is likely coming thru an attitude of disapproval, just like mine was to my H, which is off-putting respect-wise.

And this I know well: if he doesn't feel respected, he sure as hell will not be throwing you against walls any time soon.

Take that for what you will, I'm only speaking from my own experience obviously. I should probably cut/paste to my thread b/c I've not been able to rally to post there since Thursday.

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19

If it seems slow in coming, wait.
It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3

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