Maybe just start by seeing if you recognize any of this in yourself. Think about your own attitudes of sexuality in yourself, others, etc.... I'm not saying you are or aren't this way because I don't know you and am not observing or talking to you in person, but it's something to think about. Sometimes just being aware of something helps us discover (or maybe find the opposite) in ourselves.
One more thing that might be helpful is books on sexuality. I think a lot of us think we know things, but there's probably a lot more we can learn (I know I need to get some books myself!). Maybe something to put on my xmas list!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
