I just pulled the information below from your last thread (while continuing to beat the dead horse!!!). The reason I wanted to have you look, and think about this again is that a lot of unwanted or mistaken male attention can sometimes cause us to put up distancing blocks (against other men. I know!!! I'm a pro at this one!). I do think we get so used to keeping men at a distance that it's something we unthinkingly and automatically do with husbands (without realizing it!!!). I think breaking through this is much harder than one realizes. You should think about the blocks you put up because you DO work at a bar and probably see some seedy things. I've heard of women working at bars being pretty negative about men, sex and relationships because they often see things in their worst light.

Just a thought!.....


I work in a bar, I get quite a bit of male attention. Actually a little more than I am comfortable with, unfortunately the only one that I want attention from (my H) is not giving it to me.

Hummmmm.... Now you have me thinking.... I'm wondering if you're so used to deflecting attention from other males that you've developed some protective mechanisms (distancing mannerisms) and perhaps have unconsciously used these with H (out of habit)... (???)


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