Confront her - Part II - The Bomb drops

[LuckyLuke]

I look at last night's "I am going to move out" bomb as pretty much the last one, and my last chance. My marriage is very important to me - still - and I will make my best effort in the time remaining. That will mean becoming more sociable (maybe the counselor will have suggestions for how to do this), fighting back (I have swallowed my pain and anger for too a long time) when called for, and maybe being critical of her also (she puts a lot of weight on learning in life and maybe good criticism will teach her something).

We took the meyer-brigg's personality test and she is type ENFP and I am INTJ, with the biggest different on the I and E. We weirdly meet the description of who typically is these types right on the nose: she is a designer and I am an engineer. So it seems I should ask the counselor how to better match her personality type.

She puts great stock in how the house looks - just made me a japanese screen to block out light from my window - and so I will work on this too - just washed the wooden stairs on hands and knees.

It seems the key is understanding what she needs - even though she wouldn't tell me last night - and trying to become that person.

By the way, she meets the description of a WAW on the main DB page to a T - maybe there is something to exploit there also.

Yeah, I am able to suffer for a long time - not sure that is good -

Thanks again for your thoughts -

Luke