I went weeks sometimes without seeing my W and it really helped me to move on. I still go weeks without seeing her, but when I do see her, It doesn't stir as much passion as it did a year or so ago. I don't need to hide my emotions around her because they are naturally tempered now. I can act "as if" with no problem because it's actually how I feel.
It's easy for me because I can pick up my boys at day care or school on Friday and drop them off Monday morning after having them over the weekend. I don't really have a need to see her or talk to her for that matter.
I guess if your still employing DB principals you would want to continue to show "happy exterior", but when W leaves and some time passes, you won't have to fake it anymore, you will be happy eventually.
I think what's eaten away at you is the duration of your marriage problems. 3 years is a long time to live with somebody who your in love with, but who doesn't love you in return. The A adds insult to injury. I can't honestly understand how you remained sane for as long as you have, your endurance for pain is incredible.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
