Thanks very much for the two links. I've called fkc (they are nearer than the other place) and should have an appointment with them next week. It would be much better to rescue this M than to break it, and so I'll give this a shot.
On a different note, my trip to the states got moved to a week later, which my W doesn't like. She wants to go down to Germany again (to OM?) when I am back and this only delays that. She also thought it would be okay for me to be gone for 3 weeks, which seems very long to me, plus it would drive me crazy not to be able to see the kids for that long. I can see that being without me here would be less stressful for my W than with me, but 3 weeks!
We had an emotionally lacerating day yesterday, with no fight or anything, but my wife played her music in the next room, singing along with it, so I put on my headphones and was in my own world. It was hard to communicate all day, and our planned movie viewing last night fell flat when she went to bed early instead. Odd how just being together can be so stressful...
It sure would be great to resolve or at least make clear something before she goes to Germany again - for example that her affair hurts me and is driving me to think of asking her to leave -
Here is an interesting quote from a website on Jung personality type (I am INTJ, my wife is ENFP): The INTJ "scientist" is also attracted to the ENFP "journalist," probably because of the enthusiastic, effervescent, and apparently spontaneous enjoyment and wonderment this type exudes-the very antitheses of the careful, thoughtful exactitude of the INTJ. (see http://www.geocities.com/lifexplore/enfp.htm for more. See http://similarminds.com/myers-briggs-jung.html for the test itself).
Anyway, thanks again, it was very kind of you to look up the links -
Best -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
