Luke, the beauty of this BB is that sometimes you do get a variety of opinions, the tough part is sorting them out! As you know, we have someshat similar sitches with unfaithful S's, numerous "bombs" and children. My utmost concern in my sitch is the kids. Whatever I decide affects more than my "happiness", it affects there's. So put that into you equation when deciding. Now, personally I'm going to see a Solution Focused counsellor this week because I too don't know where to go from here. There does come a time when enough is enough, only you can know when that time is. I'm thinking about telling my W that she has a certain amount of time to decide what she wants for her life and her family afterwhich I will decide what's going to happen. I will tell her that one of us will be leaving. It's up to her to decide whether she wants an intact family and to rebuild our M or the OP and all the Hell that will entail re family and everything else. Right now it's a thought for me, one I need to seriously process. Again, my kids mean everything to me in deciding this. But,this may be a strategy you could consider too. Take care.
