Hey Luke, sounds like things are coming to a head for you somewhat. At some point you have to say enough is enough and figure out where your stance is. So you have been given three pieces/options of advice. So the question then becomes, what do YOU want to do. How tired are you of all of this? I believe that you can take a stance without jeopardizing your own feelings. Being a decent man at the same time as forcing an issue can be done you know.
Maybe it's just time to lay it all out there a bit. Maybe you need to force a seperation to start. let her know your not giving up on reconciliation, however you also are sick of living this way. She may just need to be on her own or see you on your own in order to get the reality of what the situation will become should the two of you actually part ways.
Only you can decide what the correct course of action is for you Luke, just know that sitting there and taking this pain over and over again, each day suffering will only end up damaging your heart for any future relationships. The longer you allow yourself to take the hurt and have the pain in your life, the longer it will take you to recover and ever trust again.
The only thing that I am trying to really get across to you is that you can only take so much on yourself Luke. You have to start at some point to put your mental well being ahead of anything else. Take your time and search your soul to figure out what Luke really needs.
