Luke, I too have had the bomb dropped three times now, every year around the same time, it's becoming a new ritual in our family..."Happy bomb dropping Day!", maybe I should start buying her a gift for the occassion? . Seriously though, three years ago I heard " I don't know how I feel about you (or the kids) anymore", two years ago I heard "I don't love you anymore" and last year I heard "I've started another R". I discovered the DB book 1.5 years ago and it kept me going. So my suggestion is to keep following the DB strategies until you come to that place where the M is on track or you honestly feel its over. I'm at a place where I am now going to see a Solution Focused Counsellor because I'm out of ideas, so it's time to get reinforcements! So, you keep trying things and see what works and what doesn't and DON'T live by whatever comes out of W's mouth, that's a killer to the PMA. Take care.
. Seriously though, three years ago I heard " I don't know how I feel about you (or the kids) anymore", two years ago I heard "I don't love you anymore" and last year I heard "I've started another R". I discovered the DB book 1.5 years ago and it kept me going. So my suggestion is to keep following the DB strategies until you come to that place where the M is on track or you honestly feel its over. I'm at a place where I am now going to see a Solution Focused Counsellor because I'm out of ideas, so it's time to get reinforcements! So, you keep trying things and see what works and what doesn't and DON'T live by whatever comes out of W's mouth, that's a killer to the PMA. Take care. 