W said no, she doesn't want to go to the Imago workshop, that our communication is good as is, and that anyway, she doesnt' see a future for us, that we should not have gotten married in the first place. That we have two wonderful kids, that it is a wonder we don't explode in this situation, and why am I sticking to my moral position of not seeing other people... that we both are attractive enough to find another lover (that hurt the most)... that we are mutually disciplined and respectful of each other... that I am a wonderful person... that the assertiveness training class I took long ago at college had not made me more assertive...
All in all, an amicable enough conversation, but one step closer to D. I told her that I then would be going to MC alone, that our M was the most important thing to me.
So the tenor was "this is natural, relationships just die sometimes, it doesn't have to be bad, we are just not matched to each other, why should we flog a horse when it is dead anyway?" Wonderful stuff.
She then showed me some flowers she thought I would like to plant in the garden this year and some pants she thought I would look good in, a marked contrast to "we just aren't meant for each other".
Will find the nearest Imago counselor this afternoon, and can hopefully start soon.
Sorry to not be able to report better news -
Windy, with occasional rain from the east -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
