Sorry to hear about your troubles. I would be frustrated and angry too - especially with losing trust, which is so corrosive.
Not sure if I can offer advice - your sitch seems very complicated - but I wonder if the depression has something to do with it? Also, I wonder what he would say if you asked him not to call? A 180, and a surprise for him, maybe?
Has he told you what is bothering him between the two of you? My W was actualy quite straight about that, and maybe it would be helpful for you too.
My troubles seem much smaller than yours. W was in bed all day today, reading old New Yorkers, while I worked. I brought up her every meal, which I hope she appreciated; the irritation on her part of the last few days was gone, for whatever reason.
Let's see what tomorrow brings -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
