Thanks for the reinforcement on counseling. It'll be interesting to see W's reaction - will let you know. To me counseling is only natural (I go to a doctor for physical sickness, so why not for a relationship sickness?).
I'm curious about your sitch, with two bombs so far apart. How did it go in the time between? Did you manage to fix some things after the first one? Did you find some happiness and peace of mind after a while again? These repeated bombs (yours were both in wintertime, wonder if there is something there?) must mean something.
I also note that you are a bit older than myself (I am 49). My longer term fear is that we may manage to fix things now, but then with the kids leaving home and my W turning 50 in 2012, my wife's wild side will manifest itself again, and I will have to go through this all over again (her wedding ring says "l'anarchie" inside). I imagine that reaching these decade milestones puts some pressure on a relationship (it seems my problems started when my W turned 40). Is there something to that?
My bombs are annual, so I kind of got used to them and limp along, never really happy - hence the "no more gray in this relationship" plan.
A good 2007 to you, with peace of mind,
Best -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
