Thanks for thinking of me. Saw that your sitch is in progress - I admire you for sticking with it - good luck.
I have an appointment with a counselor tomorrow, and am trying to set up another. This first appointment will be more about them than me - want to find the right person.
Yes, I think you are right that a professional is needed now - I feel stuck for the moment and need a new input. Our marriage is in stasis - no change on her side and I cant' think of what to do on mine.
Worst case would be her somehow finding a way ('got to go on a business trip to Germany' or to have OM up here over the holidays, and she sneaks off to see him under some guise) to see OM - don't know what I would do then. At least we are at a stable, though admittedly low, point. I do get to see her most every meal, and we work at home together, and Christmas is coming up, so access is there and I might be able to make something of it.
Presumably the real counselling will first start after Christmas vacation - most everyone is off here then and I don't want to run out when the kids are at home ("where are you going, Dad?"). Will hopefully see a bunch of family friends over the holidays and get to Stockholm for culture and food.
I'll let you know how the meeting goes tomorrow -
Most obliged -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
