LL, Just remember that your W will take everything and anything and turn it into whatever she wants it to be. "You aren't strong enough" blah blah blah. It is amazing the stuff they will come up with. So just take it for what it is and keep doing your DB thing. Make yourself happy and if she comes along... BONUS! You aren't alone in this boat, I've been bailing water a few years myself. Where the hell is the Coast Guard anyway?
