Luke, for the moment I just want to say I'm so sorry this has happened. It is indeed a "bomb" when it is dropped. It amazes me that the thought of counselling is never in their mindset. Your W has worked it all out in her head to fit what she wants to do. My W did the same. Counselling might screw up their little script. Did you suggest counselling? Maybe you could sell it as a means to be better parents through this, or even just to look at waht the future holds. yes, my W also wants to stay together because it would be upsetting for the children. I wanna say "if you care so much about the kids then why not work on your M?" Ahh, dreams we have! Again, I know the pain you are having right now. I remember one night after the bomb, I woke up in the morning thinking "Whew, what a horrible dream" then I realized it wasn't a dream, it was now my life. Keep your chin up and realize that she's still there and the beauty of DB is that she doesn't have to want it to work for it TO work! Action creates reaction. Got to go. Take care of you today.
