OK maybe I can shed some light on this. I know exactly how your wife feels.
Whatever you did to attract her to you while you were dating/courting/woo-ing isn't happening anymore.
She's feeling that something is missing. Whether it's fun stuff done together, relaxing...... whatever it was, it's not there anymore.
She may also feel like she shouldn't have to tell you what is missing, since she didn't tell you what to do to attract her in the first place.
Do you remember that person? Do you remember what you used to do to get her to go on dates with you?
And yes it hurts you, but I can guarentee it hurts her more that you aren't making an effort to be "attractive" to her anymore.
You need to figure it out. She said it's getting better, so you may be on your way. Just think back to when you were dating and pretend you're single she is the you want to date. Then set out to get her to date you.
