What I'm finding is that for the first time in years (many, many years), I've got her full attention, she's fully engaged with me.
She shares so much more with me now than she did, say, six months ago, or this time last year, that it's like being with a completely different person, sort of getting to know her again, yeah, but more like she's just open and free and trusts me with herself like she hasn't in years, wants to share herself with me.
Feels pretty damn good and I never really understood what a gift that was before. I do now, though, and think I truly appreciate it.
Other'n that...and, I know, that's HUGE! and I'm loving it...life is really getting kinda boring and normal...not in a bad, we're in a rut, way, just like we have a real marriage for a change and are busy with the kids, work, holidays, family, church, you know...
Aside from a little drama from the kids (particularly the teenager) now and then, everything's really kind of quiet and normal, but with a kind of newness and freshness to it...new car smell
Biggest thing I've noticed is that if there is a slight problem or someone has a concern, even about a R issue, we just bring it up, quietly and directly, deal with it with understanding for each, and then put it behind us and move on.
All in all, in terms of just her and I, I don't think things could be better right now or that I could be happier about it. I still have to deal with some stuff that comes up from time to time, but the fact that I bit the bullet a couple months back and stopped pestering her and doing things that were not helpful (cheeseless tunnels) seems to have really paid off because it's cleared the way for us getting closer, which has helped with dealing with the bad stuff when anything pops into my head (just doesn't seem to matter as much now), and, well, there you have it.
I hope it continues.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
