It was busy as heck but that's the case with a teenager and a very-pre-teen who thinks he's 33.
Wife had a pretty tame "girls night out" Friday night at the home of a co-worker who lives not too far from us...mainly just a Christmas party with older women. Fortunately, I didn't freak out about anything, just told her to have a nice time, no need to check-in unless she just wanted to, and I'd take care of supper for the boys and things at home.
Saturday had the usual weekend activities then a really nice Christmas party Sat. night with the boys. Wife was just in a great mood and we're at the point where she hugs me tight when I put my arm around her, she puts her head on my shoulder, stuff like that. 10+ years since we've had anything like that in our R.
Other than that, mainly church stuff on Sunday. The best part was Sunday night when we were lying in bed, snuggling a little and watching tv, and she thanks me for a great weekend.
I've done many 180s over the past year, a few even before the bomb and many, many since which were much needed in my life and which have made a huge difference in my sitch because every few weeks my W will say something like, "I never thought you would ever <insert desired behavior> with me/to me/for me/etc."
However, sort of like the two-part epoxy you buy at Home Depot, it didn't really work for me until I did it just because it was the right thing to do, for me, with detachment. As long as I did those things expecting some kind of response from her, it didn't really work. Once I did it for me, it set me free, really. The fact that she is beginning to really respond now is just a major blessing and makes everything much better. But I would have been fine even if she hadn't.
So far, so good. I haven't screwed anything up too badly and we're getting along about as good as I believe we can. Everything looks good for the near future and, regardless of what happens, I feel like I'm prepared to handle whatever happens constructively.
But my plan is to make everything great, no matter what
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
