Cool...thanks...reading about your threads and struggles has helped the most mainly because by the time I truly realized the crisis I was in, we'd already lived through the hardest part...I was just in a fog the last couple of years and didn't realize it due to traveling and whatnot. Seeing how everything unfolded in your sitch, and with your knowledge even, and how you ended up responding, and how it helped you, first and foremost, then spread out from there just made a huge difference for me. Can't thank you enough for being willing to share that stuff.
I've also really appreciated cat and root just being nice to me. Believe me, ladies, I'd send flowers if I could
The truth is I was (emotionally) a walkaway spouse before my wife was. She wasn't that great, but I was worse. We struggled with this for a few years now without me realizing the depth of the problem. I'm not arrogant or naiive enough to believe everything is 100% perfect, cause that ain't happening anyway, but I know we've paid a high price to get where we're at and I just can't see us throwing it away cause it just cost too damn much.
This site and the people here really helped me to focus and impose some order on the chaos I was experiencing when I started here. Things may have worked out anyway but I'm convinced that doing much of what I learned here, in the books, and elsewhere helped me eliminate many of the mistakes and give things the best chance for getting better sooner.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
