Hairdog,

Nopkins is 100% correct. I do feel resentment that despite every effort I could come up with H has not budged. I have talked, cried, whined, insisted, suggested compromises, suggested counseling, set goals, backed off, been to counseling (okay, she was crazy, I know that). I do feel entitled to some kind of sex life with someone other than myself, someone who wants to be there. However, I would never have a surreptitious affair because I DO respect H. However, perhaps I am just barking up the wrong tree. Would I HATE it if I knew he was with someone else sexually. Yes, absolutely. I can't MAKE him want to have a sex life with me. As I suggested, who knows, maybe he would want to with someone else. Perhaps I am what is in his way.

Yeah hairy, not proud of this line of thinking but I am just toast.

Karen