When you discuss it, can you identify his needs, the things he can't live without and try to explain your hurt in terms that mean something to him? He doesn't have the need for sex like you do, but you can bet you bottom dollar that he's got some needs that are just as important to him as sex is to you. Can you explain to him by analogy using his needs what you are feeling? Can you get him to mirror you when you talk about your feelings, and try to get him to identify with what you are feeling? Until you can find some common ground in the communication where he can really understand what you are feeling, you will probably go unheard. I know WWME didn't work for you, how about somewhere else that you two can focus on your communication? Counseling? I recommended a book a while back, "How to stay Married and love it" . It might be worth a read. Basically what she says is for an uncooperative spouse that opening up and spilling your beans in a loving way will eventually have your partner doing the same.
Anyway, it sounds like a combination of you not sending your message in a language he understands and him not bothering to try to understand what you are saying. You can work through this, but it is going to take effort on your part to get the ball rolling. It's going to seem at times like you are doing all the work (and that is a sucky feeling), but I can tell you with confidence that it is worth the effort. If the approach you are taking isn't working try tweaking it until the message comes across loud and clear. Like I said, you've got to get him to understand your feelings but framed in feelings that he understands, and (here's the hard part) put in a way that is not critical nor accusing. Just remember, it isn't anything you did, and it isn't a personal attack on you. Huge hugs to you Karen! Good luck to you, I know you can do it, you nympho!
