Note to self: when posting to cac, don't use metaphors; he takes them way too literally.
I didn't mean a suit that you can whip off and instantly change to something else. The question of what traits people are born with and what traits/behaviors they learn at a very early age is too deep to answer here (and I don't have the strength to debate it). Suffice it to say that these typologies are road maps (oops! metaphor alert!) This isn't who you ARE for all time down to the depths of your soul, no growth is possible, you're stuck with this and there's nothing you can do about it. Growth is always possible. Martelo's comment was a good summing up.
Are you sincerely looking for ways and tools that you may not have heard about before to improve your sitch, or are you just interested in proving why things won't work for you (because you're so special and have a unique understanding of the nature of the world that is lost on the rest of us)? When looking at those of us who have found things that work and who seem to speak a language that you don't understand...do you think we're deluded? wrong? mistaken? trying to pull the wool over your eyes? Or is it possible we're on to something?
Karen, I wasn't suggesting by highlighting that passage in red that you should kowtow to your H's mood and once again fly down the cheeseless tunnel. If you take that anger of yours (which is FULLY justified as are all feelings) and apply some of the tools from that toolkit, you may find it diminishing. There are several reasons for trying to diminish it, but the primary one is so YOU feel better. I personally don't care if your H feels better or not. But being preggie probably for the last time, AND during the holidays... honey, I want you to be enjoying everything about your life at this time.
