Quote: I've acted as his sexual "helper" to my own detriment. I thought, "Oh, if only I flirted with H, rubbed his feet (or back),put on the nice perfume, lingerie, candles etc... it would "help" him feel more sexual. Guess what - sometimes yes but mostly no. H feels sexual when H feels sexual. I have NO idea what motivates it. I just hurt myself when I try to create a desire that isn't there.
oh yeah. that doesn't work.
well, if the shoe were on the other foot, you could use the ~ultimate~ excuse: hormones. thats our latest thing. and you can't argue with that. everyone knows that "hormones" control everything, and that's the end of it. period. do not pass go, do not collect 200$$...its "hormones". "game over!" guys can't get away with that one, typically. (well...maybe...but unusual). But with you girls...its to be expected.
