I am usually ridiculously horny the whole 1st and 2nd trimester, not so interested the third and start getting interested about four weeks after delivery. So - I guess I'm weird ( I already knew that actually).
I hear you Gel. I know the whole deal is partly self protection on my part. If I don't reveal myself too much then I control the degree of hurt I experience. Right now if I said what I was thinking it would sound a little like this, "H we haven't had sex for 2 months. For me, that is an unacceptable level of sexual activity in a generally good relationship. It has caused me to question where and how you are getting your sexual needs met. It has caused me to question whether we are in a generally good relationship. H, from your perspective, what is the problem that has caused us not to have sex for 8 weeks and how can we solve it?"
Here's the answer, "UHHH K, don't you remember that we've been sick several of those weeks, been stresed, tired, bringing work home and you are pregnant and fall asleep on the couch every night? Ummm, of course, with all of that we aren't having sex." He would never address the getting needs met elsewhere part.
I can tell you that the above conversation will be useless as every other conversation that is similar has been. Is my only option to say, "H, we haven't had sex for 2 months, it pisses me off and if this the way you want our M to be then I guess I will have to find a fcuk buddy." I feel like it will take this level of verbal agression before he will address any of it but in the meantime it will hurt our ongoing interactions in every area that is working.
