I understand what you are saying and I go through periods where my level of acceptance is good. Life is generally happy then, H is affectionate etc... However, I do hold my tongue because expressing my innermost thoughts are read by H as discontent no matter how sweetly or carefully I state them. Then he dodges and I get discouraged.
Lil,
Oh - no way would H say I was fat. He NEVER makes negative remarks about anything related to my looks and rarely makes positive ones. I was just using an example. I would actually be relieved if H gave me something to work with - I hate your perfume, you're fat, I'm in love with someone else etc.... Anything that would explain any of this to me would actually be good for our R. I am so tired of the same litany of excuses as to why we don't ML. I think, in some ways, I would be relieved by ta big sexual secret - "I can only really get excited if your toenails are painted red" - whatever.
Like you, part of my need to have sex is for my own feelings of acceptance as a woman etc... but c'mon two months? I haven't made anything worse. I know I sounded like I might yesterday. H helped one of our college kids with finals, I took care of the girls, some Christmas wrapping and went to bed early and alone.
