Karen, I tend to avoid stand-offs with my H and jump in, because I know if left to my H whether we'd sink or swim... well, been there done that with the drowning. I get my knightly needs met by him in other ways...the AOS which keep the house running smoothly, his physical strength, which impresses me, his interactions with family members, etc. But relationship rescue stuff...no way. Not that he isn't doing his part to keep us up and running; I just know if deep problems arise, he'd block it out and not deal.
The solution for the mood fusion thing you're going through is to have a schedule; there's no second guessing, no ambiguity, no excuses. We have a loose schedule sexually, and we keep a date schedule to bond and have some fun. I know no matter how strange the vibes are at any given time, we are only an interaction away from getting back on track.
I admire your strength to wait it out for H to come forward. Just make sure you aren't getting yourself sick over it all.
