I have decided that whatever it is it is HIS problem NOT mine.
I still don’t understand this way of thinking. If this statement were true, his actions would not bother you in the least. But the fact is that they bother you quite a lot, and understandably so. Maybe you can’t do anything to stop his actions, but you can certainly let him know you don’t like it, that it affects you, that you know he is trying to project anger and power, and that he needs to stop. Even though he is acting within his own rights and doing nothing to you or to prevent you from feeling as you choose to feel, he is still exerting considerable control over your emotions whether you like it or not. Why don’t you just ask him why he is upset, whether he wants to talk about it, and if he says no, then tell him to get over it on his own but drop the attitude ASAP because it is bothering YOU. It all sounds like bullying behavior to me.
Oh, and all that stuff about how sensitive he is to sounds, touch, smells, etc… If he isn’t Asperger’s, then tell him to grow up and get over that too.
