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This stuff kind of makes sense, but I think you learn in more through action then through thought, and then it takes time before you really start to get it, then one day you wake up and you start to feel detached, start to let go, etc. I don't know if you can speed up the process. I assume everyone can get there eventually if they try.

Detachment. A co-worker whom I'm very fond of, just told me about her f-i-l dying from cancer. She may have to fly out very soon. I feel very bad for her and wish and hope I can help her. I'm ready to listen, lend a hand, whatever. But I'm not attached to her problem. This feels like detachment to me. Is this what I want with my W, my kids? Is it a lack of love? I worry that if I complete my detachment from my W, I'll stop 'loving' her in a way.

I hope I'm not hijacking your thread GH. Assert your boundaries as you see fit.

I think, and I think you guys are examples of this, that strength comes from detachment.

Like I said, I think it maybe one of those things that your body can understand and learn, while your brain has a hard time with it. (yes this is Kirby. I changed names b/c I suspect my W may be reading my posts, or was. I didn't try to cover my tracks at first. I got paranoid).