Quote: Very interesting...I wonder if my H has these occasional feelings...
Well, Mama, I think we all have thoughts/feelings for the people we once loved or were with. I know I do. Sure, I won't take any actions based on those feelings, but especially soon after a breakup, the feelings come fast and furious, often against your will.
I don't blame her for her feelings. Like I said, even today, I can think back fondly on some of the people I was with, or even in love with but it stops there. As long as it stops with thoughts and feelings, I am not going to sweat it. If it goes beyond that, well, that's where my boundary is.
I don't LIKE it at all, but there are a lot of things I don't like that are in my life for one reason or another. I see it as my job to either try to change the things I don't like in my life or accept them as they are. Constantly getting upset about them without processing my ability to act is less than productive, IMHO.
I think it's almost certain that your H has those feelings. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or isn't ready to be fully "there" with you. To me, it's just part of being human and so long as actions are not following the feelings, so be it.
