To be clear I like what Ali is saying - Okay, I love what she is saying.
I too had decided to jettison expectations - but only insofar as moving my R from a need to want. With needs, you can become complacent, accepting what you have because you need it - like air. With wants, you shift your paradigm to things you want to actively go after! This perhaps is the trick to piecing - moving to a place of WANT, and what you want from the M/R. So as you put things back together, you hopefully start to communicate the things you want from yourself and your spouse - and you make a plan, together to get there.
Saving a marraige as Michelle describes can be done by one person (we've proved that), growing, maintaining and improving it, that takes a family - working together.
YOU can do this - heck you already have....
Keep up the good work!
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
