Thanks OT. I was NOT flat about this when I found out about it. I think I vented plenty. I didn't do it here, but I did it in the "real world". We talked about it, I got away and thought, got angry, etc.
Quote: Well, uh, I'd be pretty pissed if I were you about that whole exchange. I guess it wasn't the kind of closure generating decisive step that I took you to mean. And, I'd caution you about filling in the blanks...
I guess. I know I make excuses for my W, and so why stop now. She isn't the most direct person in the world, ESPECIALLY when it comes to this subject. The good news, from my perspective, is that she seems VERY transparant about it. I can pretty much tell what's going on with her, and her "telling me" she blocked him was her way. It's not as direct as I guess it could be...
Quote: Why can't she tell you directly about blocking the calls? Why can't you ask her directly? "W, the other day, I guess I assumed that you meant you had blocked OMs calls, but for some reason I was afraid to ask."
I guess this is just me being comfortable/believing enough in that little exchange not to pursue it any more. I thought I had my answer. Maybe now I realize I don't, but that's only because you brought it up and I thought about it.
Quote: Then, give her a chance to talk... If she did, you might want to let her know how strong that was of her and how much you appreciate her strength for doing it and how much it means to you that she's taken such a decisive step...
Maybe she needs this. I did tell her that I appreciated her doing what she needed to do to get him gone. She said he was and she was glad. Hell, I see now how much conjecture and projection went into that. I filled in the blanks, didn't even bother to ask her what she "did" and then thanked her for something that may not have even happened.
Whew...now that I got all THAT out, I STILL don't think it's an issue. Until today, until now, I had put that behind me/us. I am digging, trying to see if it's lurking under the surface, somehow causing this anger I have been feeling, but I just don't think so.
