Ahem, what gave you the idea that it was a good time to quit going when you are only at the very beginning of truly working out the problems that led to the difficulties in your M to begin with?
Time and money. I suppose I will have plenty of the former if I don't do whatever it takes to get right, and the latter, well, I can work something out.
Quote: All of those problems are still there, and they will get increasingly bigger as your W becomes less willing to put up with stuff just because you were good enough to take her back. BTW, this last bit is a good thing, though it will make things seem harder for awhile. The last thing you need is for W to feel in your debt for the rest of your M. You'll find yourself wanting to keep her feeling that way out of fear she'll leave without it. It is not a good dynamic to rely upon for a false sense of security.
Thanks for this. It's a really good sentiment, one I will try to embrace. I knew this but you saying it really drives the point home.
I have been resting on my laurels in many ways and I can't afford that, not now, maybe not ever.
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Am I wrong that there was communication with OM? If not, I want you to go drive around in your car and yell at the top of your lungs about how angry it made you, how much it hurt you, etc... Even if you think you were fine with it, just try it. It shouldn't be hard to do if there isn't any truth to it... If it is VERY hard to do, there is probably a lot of truth to it.
I don't know if you were wrong, but I did already do similar things when it happened. I think I got it all out, but I will give it a good yell just for you!
