P.P.S. (So, this is my third post, lest you miss any, lol...)
Quote: If I have to go back to my C, I will.
Ahem, what gave you the idea that it was a good time to quit going when you are only at the very beginning of truly working out the problems that led to the difficulties in your M to begin with?
All of those problems are still there, and they will get increasingly bigger as your W becomes less willing to put up with stuff just because you were good enough to take her back. BTW, this last bit is a good thing, though it will make things seem harder for awhile. The last thing you need is for W to feel in your debt for the rest of your M. You'll find yourself wanting to keep her feeling that way out of fear she'll leave without it. It is not a good dynamic to rely upon for a false sense of security.
Am I wrong that there was communication with OM? If not, I want you to go drive around in your car and yell at the top of your lungs about how angry it made you, how much it hurt you, etc... Even if you think you were fine with it, just try it. It shouldn't be hard to do if there isn't any truth to it... If it is VERY hard to do, there is probably a lot of truth to it.
