GH,,,,
Yesterday was like you were walking along and "thinking" evrything is great I am going to put on my Ipod and do this and THEN------------- she tells you well you know what buddy you have not changed that much,,and basically you feel like she put her foot out and you tripped !


get up and rollup your sleeves HONEY and get back to letting go of all that stuff.

....yes it will be a life long thing you have to pay attention to,, for me it is when I get dark again and I am not as Happy as I should be and it is sooo easy to slip back into how we used to be to certain extent it is a part of who we are,,, and yet with all you have learned you can do it ,,,,,it will just take a constant effort until it is just a part of who you are.
You know and we all know here that you can do this.

BTW,, my H HATES when I wear my Ipod around him cause in the past yes I would wear it to block out evrything else,, did you used to do this? or not? For me I just love music and so in the past it helped me to wear it and now he associates it with me being angry,, once since reconciling I tried to wear it just like you did yesterday and I could tell he did not like it,, it took him back and so I do not wear it all when he is home.

....even for me when I expect him to act a certain way like he used to I am pleasantly surprised when I am wrong and he has changed. I think it is Fantastic that she told you all this,, she could have just swept it under the rug and pretended evrything is just FABULOUS,, but she does not want just a Mediocre M she wants a EXTRAORDINARY ONE and AN EXTRAORDIANERY FAMILY TOO. AWESOME!!!!

Instead of being upset you should feel Great that she is not going to let you be the old you that got you to a bad pLAce she wants to help you be the Man she knows you are underneath it all.

You are blessed Honey to have such loving Wife and sure maybe she did not sound like it last nite but that is what she is doing ~~~~~~~ LOVING YOU~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

She will no longer settle for anything less and I do not believe you will either,,,, take this challenge to be who you need to be and look at like the best d*mn CHRISTMAS GIFT you will ever give yur family,, God has blessed you with your family and do your absolute best honey to give them the beautiful man you are and let go of expectations,,, you are blessed plain and simple. You worked so hard for this and the best gift you could ever give her or your children is ((a happy)) YOU.
I still remeMber how you told me to use my voice and for me it is not natural to use my voice geez I would rather stay quiet , but I have seen that when I use my voice in a way that shows that I need this and do not want it or just start yelling out of frustration my voice gets heard and MY H and I both are in a much better place,, he wants to hear me and it has ben amazing and I cannot Thank You or others here enough for telling me that.
I must admit to you that the other day he was telling me I have gotten a little chubby and I used my voice ( in a calm but assertive way) and I was saying something like,, "Oh yeah I am chubby well you know what thats why I didnt want to eat what you made for me, fine I wont eat,, in a joking tone... he smiled and actually said he was getting turned on by me being assertive,,,,,

I was shocked to say the least ~~ he was "visibly" turned on and then I aksed him,," I thought you would not like me being that way and he replied" Honey there is a big difference between being a B*TCH and being how you were being, do not get confused there is a difference and I like when you act like that!!!!! ~wow~~~~~~~~


I was speechless...

So instead of thinking of this as a problem look at it in a different way,, it is a blessing she told you,,, she could have not said a word and you would have never known.
May God bless you and your family sweetie,, this will all be ok and now you know what she needs from you.Today is a new day and you will do just fine ,,, your blessings are many.
God bless....