Wow, GH, I am honored that you opened up a new thread with me as the topic. Thanks, I'll open a new one for myself and see if I can remember how to link.
I remember OT telling you to pin your wife against the wall. You were very hesitant at first, yet when you finally did, amazing things happened. So...I will definitely try it. What is the worst thing that can happen? He will stand there like an unresponsive mannequin as he has done several times.
Alimari, you described things pretty well. When H and I first met I was very confident about who I was. We were crazy in love and the sex was fantastic, spontaneous, uninhibited and fun. Then came one pregnancy after another; I was pregnant 6 times in 8 years (2 miscarriages, 1 stillborn and 3 beautiful children) and this took a toll on our R. I was grieving the children lost, and exhasuted from the ones I had; 2 were 16 months apart with the oldest having colic.
Now that my kids are a bit older and not quite so dependant on me I find that I no longer need or have to be Mom 24/7, I can also be my H's lover (which I should have been all along but did not know it).
Years of an almost non-existant sex life left my H feeling unwanted and undesired - kind of like how I feel now. This is what led to his A, he obviously started getting the attention he was missing from OW and it made him feel good so he acted on it. Although it hurts me like hell I really can't blame him.
Sorry GH, I will now attempt to move this to a new thread of my own.
