Nikki, You hit it on the head with the guilt, that is the problem, I feel SO guilty about what happened, I thought that telling him would help that, but it would only help me and definatly make things worst between H and I. So I think that I will keep things under wraps for a while and see where things go from here.
Quote: Dunno… hope that helps a little. I’m so darn confused myself right now I feel a little silly offering advice!!
I would not worry some of the stuff that I came up with while I was confused still got through to the poeple I was posting to.
Both you and David are saying the same thing about avaliblity. I think he would make himself avalible to me when every I asked him to, but that is just the kind of person he is. OK availbe to talk to.
David, You are right here.
Quote: sooner or later something WILL come up w/ you and H and you will start thinking WTH am I doing w/ H.... and guess where you will turn?
Not sure if you read the complete thread but when H was having his affair the thought did cross my mind that this guy would not be a bad guy to go out with. Maybe becasue he was convinent or maybe because he was there to see me at my worst, not sure.
I do know that there will be no alone time with him. If there is an occation to go out with friends, frist and for most H will be coming along, and if for some reason he can not I will be going alone and leaving alone, even if my friend is going. No more just going over to his place to hang out or just to talk.
I have worked far too hard to get to where H and I are to just throw it away, and I hope that my friend will see it the same way. He and I are getting together tomorrow afternoon to talk.
