I'm sorry to hear you're in this sitch... but the good news is you recognize it for what it is... A NOT GOOD RELATIONSHIP! Please don't delude yourself that you can stay "just friends"... sooner or later something WILL come up w/ you and H and you will start thinking WTH am I doing w/ H.... and guess where you will turn?
PIGLET said it best...
Quote: I finally had to cut off almost all private contact with him. I realized how much energy our relationship was taking from our significant others. And, it wasnt fair to have that with him when we've promised to remain emotionally and physically faithful to someone else.
Spend your energy on your H!!!
And if you think I'm fooling... read my thread. XW decided that OM, a friend of ours was Mr. Wonderful. He wasn't the reason we got div'd, but it sure clouded her judgement. And he now has apologized to me for his actions... realized he shouldn't ever have let things get so close.
Please don't let this upset your apple cart. It's normal to be attracted to other people... just don't act on it. And realize that M/R's take a lot of effort. But the consequences of NOT working on your M/R are far worse. Trust me. XW and I could have made significant inroads to our issues and come through a lot better off, our kids too.. She chickened out and walked. OM dumped her after three months!
Now she's w/ a guy she met in July and already living w/ him and engaged! And she thinks its ME who was afraid to be alone and that's why I wanted her back... Jeez.
And she thinks its ME who was afraid to be alone and that's why I wanted her back... Jeez. 