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[NikB]

Thanks Sadkimby. Yeah things are not so great for me at the moment… but, trying to keep the hope and knowledge alive that they will improve.

There are definitely some differences in our situations and I think they’re important ones. I’d still recommend cutting things off though, just because you have that little bit of nagging doubt. I remember in a psych class back in college we learned a little about marriage/divorce and they said the #1 factor in many cases was the “availability” of another person. It makes it easier to leave because you know you won’t be alone.

If you’re interested at all I found this link that talks more about “to tell or not to tell”:
http://www.dearpeggy.com/telling.html

Apparently the advice I gave you follows conventional wisdom, but she makes some good points in favor of telling. Quick note – I realize what happened isn’t exactly an affair, but some aspects are similar so I thought it might still help. After looking that over I wonder if it might be better to tell him SOMETHING but just be really careful about how, when, and what your intentions are. If you’re just telling him to get rid of the guilt, I wouldn’t do it.

Dunno… hope that helps a little. I’m so darn confused myself right now I feel a little silly offering advice!!