First of all Shirt I know what you are going through. I read the SSM book and have been desperate to find help. My wife is AWOL and in our eleven and a half years of marriage she has had a zero sex drive. Our first night home after our wedding I asked what did she want to do, thinking romance and sex would be on the top of the list. Instead she wanted to go and visit my parents. It has never changed, so when you say that you are new to this; some of us have been fighting this for years. I have a nine, seven and half and four year old at home. So I understand where you are coming from. I also talk to my mom and trust me that is not fun. So if you need a shoulder to cry we should trade email address. You asked what can you do; you can read Michelle's book ( I think they are great) but in the end you are only responsible for you and you alone. It might be hard to hear that but in the end there is not much you can do to boost her libido. So try therapy, read the books, etc... but in the end if she is not going to change you face a tough road. I told my wife that my New Years resolution is to give her what she wants, a sex free marriage. I will not look at her lustfully, I will not approach her for sex. I am going to just focus on being friends. Today is day three of 2007 and I am already going insane.
