Well I'm new to this forum and I hate to hijack it but I need some help understanding what I'm going through. I'll start by telling you a little about myself; I'm a retired military member 42 years old I work out 4 times a week, and look really good. I would say that I'm not really good looking, but atractive. (you know what I mean). My wife is still active duty and we have two kids 3 and 8. We decided I would stay home with the kids for a while because if you can imagine we've been pretty busy the last couple of years before I retired. So I stay home do the laundry, clean, take the kids to school all the cooking, and keep a pretty good house. I'm actually pretty good at it, and I'm a full time student working on my Masters Degree. A little over 12 months ago I noticed we weren't having sex as often as I would like and I mentioned it to my wife. She doesn't really want to get in to it I guess, but fast forward to now and realize that it hasn't gotten any better. She is currently away on official business, and she was gone for 22 days, and I thought she would be happy to see me when she got back, so I set it up. Candles a bottle of wine, but i get no response. She drove for 4 hours to get home so I think yea I see that, I'll try it the next day, well its the same. We did have sex, but I felt like it was because she did it out of mercy or something. And oh while she's been gone she goes out every Friday and Saturday until 0230 or like Saturday didn't get in until 0300. I don't have a problem normally with her going out when she's on the road and I think the whole sex problem has made me wonder what the heck is going on. Well we got into a heated discussion, and she said she didn't have much of a sex drive, and says she doesn't even think about sex ever, and I don't talk to her. I try to talk to her, but I don't have much going on in my life exept for the kids, the house, and school. After about 30 minutes I'm done with what I have in my head, and she doesn't contribute to the talking that I can see. I really think she's cheating on me, but would like someone else to tell me what they think.
Thanks for the help, and no I don't have anyone to talk to but my mom, and man is that a weird talk with mom.
