Welcome to the wonderful world of MLC. Just wanted to say hello and, like the others, tell you to fasten the seat belt and hold on to the rail.
You talk about the "script" - my sitch is running line by line to it also. For each of your own examples I could give you a virtually identical one, just change the name and place.
The downside is, that you can be pretty certain this is going to take a long time to resolve and will require every fibre of your being and soul, plus a few fibres more when you're totally spent and exhausted and "can't go on" any more.
The upside is that you can rest assured this has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. Be calm in that knowledge when the accusations and excuses are flying. And it offers you a life-transforming opportunity to take a good hard look at yourself and to open up new paths of self-realisation.
You'll get to like your fellow-travellers here in the MLC boards - a wry and witty crew with huge knowledge and compassion. They've helped me profoundly, rescued me in fact.
