OK, I guess I'll jump right in and start with questions...

Cake Eating - How much should I let her get away with? She still askes me to do things for her. She wants to be independant and free from responsibilty, but as soon as she needs something she calls me. Should I say NO? Should I pick and choose what I do and don't do? As much pain as she's put me through, I still "need" her to know that I'm here....but I don't want to keep feeling like a doormat! Where's the line?

Tangent question - going dim/dark? She only contacts me when she needs something. Should I stop taking her calls? Will that just piss her off further, or do I need to make her live with her choices?

Me - 47 WAW - 41 Married - 9-14-85 Kids - D14 and D12 Bomb - 1-19-06 W moved out - 5-29-06