Hi all, Just saw that my last thread locked so here is my newest one with a new name: Chapter 5
I'm sill here by on the boards less. A lot has happened lately, here's a recap: 1. Broken wrist is healing fine, still have a soft cast on thru Christmas 2.Still have minor contact with H, his bday party w/my B & SIL, went very well. 3. Bday party for his niece at our home, H was here and mingled some. 4. Spent Thanksgiving w/H, my B & SIL and their kids/grandkids-H was w/me all day and interacted great with everyone. 5. We exchanged Christmas presents w/my B & SIL as they leave for the winter, H brought my some nice things but the best was his card to me signed "Love H name" . Last year all I got was a money card with a gift card, no writing in it. 6. I took a train trip the following day and H saw my packed bags, asking where I was going. When I explained that his SIL & I were going to visit her grandkids, he agreed to take me to and pick me up at depot!
All in all, everything is positive except H is still not living in our home. I know, baby steps. I'll ckeck in from time to time. See ya!
When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot.
Hey Was2Sad, I'm still lurking some, just not on BB everyday like I used to. Things here are still progressing with baby steps and that is good. Still minor contact w/H. He seems to be more friendly towards me and wanting to prolong phone conversations. They are no means 'lengthy' but even 10 minutes of talk is good compared to before. Soft cast is starting to bug me, am ready for it to be off.
Still involved w/my church and still busy at work. Looking forward to Christmas holidays where this time last year I was unsure if I was going to make it one more step.
I hope you are well and that you have a very Merry Christmas! {{{hugs}}} SG
When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot.
Great to hear these things from you. It surely has been a strange journey indeed. And it seems it has sloooowwwwly begun to shift in your favor. First of all you are becoming a survivor and no longer white knuckling the roller coaster. Kudos to you kiddo.
Yes, most of us would live happily ever after just to have a sane ten minute talk with our lost love. No false hopes of course, and no answers, just ten minutes of sanity. And you deserve every minute of it that you get. Baby steps aren't so small when you put them in perspective, are they?
My Christmas wish is for you to enjoy the holidays to the max, and experience a couple extra baby steps. Your New Year is certain to be better than the last one. That is one thing most of us can hang our stocking on!!!
This is as good a place as any to share perspective. One of the two guys I share an office with just attended his only child's college grad, and moved her back home. She is to start grad school while working as a sub teacher a while. His back was sore after the box moving weekend. Went to a chiropracter for about three sessions, then began passing blood in urine.
Went to MD who checked him into hospital immediately. Scans and MRIs show a large mass on his kidney, liver, and spine. Just left visiting the hospital. The prognosis is clearly not good but he is doing an amazing job keeping spirits high for the family at Christmas. Making plans to move to advanced research treatment center.
I could have it worse. You could have it worse. Let us count our blessings together at this special time of the year, and not forget how special it is indeed.
It is good to see you back again. I just wanted to wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy and Prosperous New Year. I hope all goes according the "plan"==God's plan that is.
His name is Bill. He has wild hair, wears a T-shirt with holes >>in it, jeans, and no shoes. This was literally his wardrobe for his entire >>four years of college. >> >> He is brilliant. Kind of profound and very, very bright. He >>became a Christian while attending college. >> >> Across the street from the campus is a well-dressed, very >>conservative church. They want to develop a ministry to the students but >>are not sure how to go about it. >> >> One day Bill decides to go there. He walks in with no shoes, >>jeans, his T-shirt, and wild hair. The service has already started and so >>Bill starts down the aisle looking for a seat. >> >> The church is completely packed and he can't find a seat. By >>now, people are really looking a bit uncomfortable, but no one says >>anything. >> >> Bill gets closer and closer and closer to the pulpit, and >> when he realizes there are no seats, he just squats down right on the carpet. >> >> By now the people are really uptight, and the tension in the >> air is thick. >> >> About this time, the minister realizes that from way at the >> back of the church, a deacon is slowly making his way toward Bill. >> >> Now the deacon is in his eighties, has silver-gray hair, and >> a three-piece suit. A godly man, very elegant, very dignified, very courtly. >>He walks with a cane and, as he starts walking toward this boy, everyone >>is saying to themselves that you can't blame him for what he's going to do. >> >> How can you expect a man of his age and of his background to >>understand some college kid on the floor? >> >> It takes a long time for the man to reach the boy. >> >> The church is utterly silent except for the clicking of the >>man's cane. All eyes are focused on him. You can't even hear anyone >>breathing. The minister can't even preach the sermon until the deacon does >>what he has to do. >> >> And now they see this elderly man drop his cane on the floor. >>With great difficulty, he lowers himself and sits down next to Bill and >>worships with him so he won't be alone. >> >> Everyone chokes up with emotion. >> When the minister gains control, he says, >> >> >> "What I'm about to preach, you will never remember. What you >>have just seen, you will never forget." >> >> "Be careful how you live. >> You may be the only Bible some people will ever read!" >> >> I asked the Lord to bless you as I prayed for you today. >> To guide you and protect you as you go along your way. >> His love is always with you, >> His promises are true, >> And when we give Him all our cares, >> You know He will see us through. >> >> Only if you feel to, pass this to People you want God to >>Bless....I DID!
Hi all, I know it's been forever since I've been around and I apologize for that. I hear that Simon and Jack have been missing me??? Wow, does that make me feel good!!!
First of all, let me say that H is still out in the fog but I think it may be clearing a bit. We still have minor contact: email, phone, and some family/friend get-togethers. For that I am thankful, yes still baby steps but at least it's forward.
I've had a birthday while I've been out of pocket, yes H did call me. He did not acknowledge our 27th wedding anniversary but I sent him flowers and he liked it! We've also had a couple of family outings that he has attended and seemed quite relaxed and chatty with everyone.
We went to dinner a couple of weeks ago and had THE talk again (it's been over a year since our last one). He opened up some, did not get too defensive, but still appears to be in limbo. He has seen 2 co-workers file and get divorced this past year and it has has made an impact on him.
All in all, he's still a part of my life and hasn't given me the impression that he wants out. I still pray for him everyday that God will soften his heart enuf so that he wakes up and wants to come home. Oh yeah, I almost forgot....I got baptized last Sunday! Yahoo!! My relationship w/H is on hold right now but my relationship with God is blooming.
One more thing: I got an email from The One a few days ago and he is still hanging in there. He is looking for another job but he and the kids are okay. He said to tell everyone hello and that he misses the BB.
Note to Simon: yes, the IPOD is still giving me fits and no, I still have no music loaded on it. LOL Hugs to all! Soonergal
When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot.
I am so glad that you posted and updated us. I am sorry that he is still in the fog, but I am glad for the constact that you have had, and from a years perspective, it is alot more contact than you had at first. I remember he would come by and get mail but not see you. And that he opened the card you left him on the counter and thanked you on the phone or the email.
You might not see the changes, but I can...even spaced out over a year.
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Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I know, baby steps. 
Wow, does that make me feel good!!!