I talked to OW tonight and took all your guy's advice. I told her that her friendship and company were very important to me, but that I couldn't give her what I thought she was looking for right now, a committed relationship.
I told her I was still healing and repairing the affects from the breakup of my M and that I wanted to go extremely slow with any future relationship. I told her this process could probably take years. I told her I would understand if she wanted to move on and not see me anymore.
She told me she felt very comfortable around me and has a good time when she's with me. She told me she understood because She was in the same boat when her H left her. She told me she wasn't going to stop seeing me and that she didn't want me to feel pressured. She told me she's comfortable and satisfied with the way things are between us now.
I think she was relieved that I finally was honest about my feelings for her. She told me she was usually very good at "figuring" a Man out, but that I had presented her with a challenge. She thanked me for being honest and for not "playing games" with her.
This want better than I thought. I knew She would be understanding, but I didn't expect her to continue seeing me. I guess I had her pegged wrong (like that hasn't happened before).
Thanks for the good advice!
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
