I'm trying to make sense of my waw's obsession with OM who is in prison. I've been researching (books and internet) about Woman being attracted to killers behind bars. It's really weird and interesting at the same time. It's a phenomena many might not be aware of.
It makes sense to me. I think my waw likes the ideal of control over what she perceives as a powerful and dangerous entity. She has total control over the situation and can orchestrate her fantasy as she pleases from a safe distance. She gets his undivided attention whenever she wants and this fuels her ego. This dope won't have any masculinity left to him after she's done with him. Kind of like a vampire that sucks a Man's identity and power from him. In a sense, he's a doll for her to play with.
There may be some other issues involved as well with my W's past and her upbringing. Low self-esteem comes into play but there also may be mental or physical abuse in her past that I'm not aware of. I know her Father was abusive to her Mother and they divorced when she was young, but she never really ever talked about her relationship to her Father.
I'm not really sure how to approach her past, but all this research has me really curious. She has some mental/emotional issues she's not facing and I'm not sure how to help her without her getting upset of mad at me. No matter what happens between us, I want to see her mentally healthy for our kids sake.
Any suggestions, advice, or observations would be appreciated.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
